How To Create A Positive First Impression In Order To Establish Rapport And Make Great Conversation

We, as human beings are at times concerned with how we present ourselves to others. We understand that making a positive first impression goes a long way in determining how others will view us, potentially for the remainder of the relationship. As such, whether you are on the dating scene or you are trying to establish rapport and ultimately develop great conversation with business clients, it is imperative that we take the most effective steps to ensure a favorable first impression.

When preparing to make a great first impression, one needs to establish exactly what the other person is looking for? One thing you must always remember, and no matter how much you may disagree with it, people always judge you initially by the following four criteria:

1. Your Physical Appearance

2. Your Bodily Demeanor

3. What You Sound Like

4. The Content of Your Speech

Did you notice what was first and last on the list? That's right, people judge others, at least initially, by what they look like, their physical appearance. Conversely, the last component of the judgment sequence is what someone actually says. As I mentioned, you don't necessarily have to agree with this, but studies have shown this to be the case.

So, since we now know that making a positive first impression in order to establish rapport and ultimately make great conversation largely hinges on factors that don't even include talking, we need to determine what we need to do to create the ideal first impression.

For your physical appearance, make it a habit to always stay abreast of the dress code for any parties, networking events or dinners in which you plan to participate. Being underdressed or overdressed can absolutely kill your confidence as well as create the illusion that you are apathetic or "out of touch" with today's wardrobe trends. Also, concentrate on wearing clothes that accentuate or complements your body build. And as always, stupendous personal hygiene is a must!

For your bodily demeanor, it has been stated over and over again, but there are no truer words: Always, smile. It doesn't need to be some goofy, toothy grin, but a warm, open and genuine smile is always one of the best conversation starters and will certainly create a positive first impression.

Your sound. The natural tendency when we are meeting someone new is to be at least somewhat nervous. Consequently, our speech patterns tend to speed up, rendering some of our words incomprehensible. We must always be cognizant of this and make it a priority to enunciate our words slowly and with power and confidence.

Finally, the content of your speech. This is what we have been working to get to. Don't worry about it, this only accounts for about 6% of the impression you leave on someone. Remember, excellent communicators and great conversationalists most often have to speak very little.

Implementing these steps can ensure that you are able to create that positive first impression you are seeking.

Harness the Power of Subliminal Messaging

Scientific studies have proven that the human mind consists of two regions:

The conscious and the unconscious. The conscious mind plays the "active

part" which directs our actions, reasons out and accountable for the majority of

our activities throughout the waking hours. The unconscious (also called

subconscious) which "sits at the back," is the passive, unquestioning part

which controls our involuntary functions and in-charge of the more subtle

creative faculties of the mind.

Psychologists believe that any person can create lasting improvements in

oneself by accessing the power of the unconscious. However, this is not as

simple as it sounds. Most individuals have no indication how to even get in

touch with the unconscious, how much more for effecting improvements? This

is where subliminal messaging becomes exceedingly helpful and necessary.

The term "subliminal" is derived from the Latin words "sub" (below) and "limen"

(threshold), which basically means "below the threshold of consciousness." It

refers to anything that exists just beneath your conscious awareness (i.e. at the

unconscious level).

By using subliminal recordings you can bypass the conscious mind and

reprogram your inner self through the use of carefully crafted subliminal

messages. These messages can be created for a great many things like

reducing stress and inducing relaxation. Some of the best I have personally

known include:

- Leadership excellence
- Creative thinking mindset
- Perfect lucid dreaming
- Supreme self-confidence
- Razor-sharp wit
- Amazing memory
- Be decisive and get what you want
- Amazing public speaking skills
- Excellent speed reading
- Lose weight quickly, and others!

In these recordings, messages are planted using special technology, which

intends to communicate directly to the unconscious mind. These subliminal

messages bypass the critical-conscious realm and goes straight to the

unquestioning-subconscious, immediately starting to create desired changes.

How Exactly Do They Work?

Subliminal programs contain positive affirmations (subliminal messages)

focused on particular areas chosen by the listener, to accomplish a specific

aim. The mind "accepts" these affirmations without question, at the

subconscious level, immediately beginning the work of transforming the

messages into actuality in the person's life.

Since they bypass the analytical critical-conscious mind, these subliminal

messages facilitate the process of changing attitudes, skills and habits and

start to reprogram the whole being towards achieving a particular goal.

Subliminal messages are generally embedded in a piece of music or masked

with ocean waves and sounds of nature which are very soothing to the body

and spirit. These are called "positive affirmations" which influence individual

beliefs that are stored in the subconscious mind. They gradually and gently

replace limiting beliefs by new empowering ones. It is an automatic and

effortless method of changing yourself from the inside-out.

How Long Does It Take for Change To Happen?

You must be aware that most of your subconscious programming has taken

place over an entire lifetime and may not be altered in a few hours or days. It is

also likely that several issues overlap and require more than one subliminal

recording to reprogram.

Let's take the issue of self confidence as an illustration. Somebody who has

low self-esteem may listen to a subliminal recording to improve in this area.

Several weeks later, there seems to be little or no improvement despite the

effort. It would be easy to conclude that "subliminals don't work" and give up.

While subliminal programming is highly effective, there are factors to be

considered to ensure success. Some of the basics are outlined below:

- Embedded messages. Since it is almost impossible to determine the

messages used, it is always prudent to ask the source to give you a copy of the

script. In our sample case, the user needs to ensure that the subliminal

recording employs self-esteem affirmations targeting this area of concern.

- Requirements. Some subliminals are best listened to using headphones,

while others can be played just like ordinary music. This technicality must be

explicitly defined when you acquire your copy, otherwise you may be unable to

maximize the true potential of this wonderful tool.

- Frequency and duration. This should come with the instructions on how to use

the recording to achieve desired results. Once you know the details, you can

begin to determine your progress and adjust accordingly.

Reprogramming the subconscious takes time, and results are commonly

observed after about 21 - 28 days. As a rule of thumb, it is advisable to allocate

personal development tools at least a month before looking for real tangible

results.

The goal of subliminal programming is to effect transformation from within.

When this begins to occur, you may feel an unexplained discomfort or

uneasiness, a natural manifestation of resistance to change. It is a reliable sign

telling you that improvement is currently taking place. This period of adjustment

is important and becomes your defining moment of success or failure.

Like any other self improvement programs, you are presented with two roads to

take - the old familiar way, and the new unexplored path. If you hate discomfort

and stop doing it, you will find yourself back in your "old familiar way." This is the

deception of the "comfort zone" which is the cause of many failures. If you

resist and persist, you will soon discover the wonders of the "new unexplored

path." When you do, success can be yours!