Quitters Do Win

We all share this common, yet miraculous ability to quickly notice when things suck. And we've all heard that quitting is bad, and quitters never win, so never ever quit. Never? Is there ever a time when quitting is a GOOD thing?

The gym is a good example of a place where things can get difficult. After the first 45 minutes of zumba class, you are sweating and unable to side-kick any higher, no matter how loudly the bandana-crazed drill sergeant yells. Someone behind you is entirely hogging the fan and you want to empty your water bottle over your head. Or pass out. Whichever happens first is fine.

Another example is being "stuck" in a crappy job. Your desk has been moved to the basement and you're working overtime on a dreadful project. Your boss passes by and blithely waves hello to the wall next to you, as if he finds the two of you indistinguishable. If he asked how it was going, you'd probably feel compelled to say everything is great! But an honest answer would be closer to, "Well Bob, I haven't yet gouged out my eyes with salad spoons... partially because I am an optimist, but mainly because I just don't carry around salad spoons."

Start by asking yourself why are you doing it. What do you get out of it, and how is that good for you? Working out is an easy one, the benefits are being healthy, feeling and looking good. The dreadful job, you might say, is necessary to pay your rent and that gym membership. But perhaps it is NOT necessary to do that particular soul-stomping job in order to make a living.

Which option serves you best? When are you doing yourself a favor by quitting, as opposed to depriving yourself of an opportunity to contribute to your overall happiness?

Two people in the same circumstances can end up with opposite conclusions. The difference is not the situation, but the choice. Your butt might be sore the next day, but you CHOOSE to take zumba because you love fitting into your skinny jeans, feel healthier, or enjoy the after cardio high. Your best friend might also love skinny jeans but despise zumba and anything resembling a gym, and choose to fit in them solely through diet.

That job is making you miserable and you don't care about the work. So why do it? Start looking for a better way to earn money that not only doesn't stress you out, but that you actually enjoy! Sometime when the going gets tough, the tough really do get going. As in, out-the-door. Goodbye.

Another way to look at your choices is to ask yourself whether you are quitting because you are going toward something better, and not simply reacting to difficulty by running away from it.

Have a goal you are excited about, a definite destination. There are many avenues to choose from to get where you want to be. As Lewis Carrol said, "If you don't know where you are going, any road will take you there." You are not confined to taking the miserable path through the basement office.

Is The Fear of Change Holding You Back?

"Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and

discomforts." - Arnold Bennett

One of the biggest issues which have been cropping up consistently with my clients lately is that of accepting and even embracing change. Even when they know that the converting over to a new way of doing things will eventually in the long run save them time and money to say nothing of alleviating stress in their lives, they continue to kick and scream every inch of the way.

I believe the first thing you need to do in order to embrace change gracefully is to find out why you're experiencing such an adverse reaction to this new request. For example, are you afraid of failure? Having a hard time trusting yourself to go through with the process, as in "Why bother? Nothing ever changes." These conditions are all due to issues of low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, and resignation which you'll need to work on at some point, but let's take a look at the bigger picture here of why you're fighting this change so hard.

At what point in your life did you become so entrenched in the 'But that's the way we've always done it' dumpster? I know there are a lot of people who subscribe to the "If it ain't broke, don't fix it" choir, but that saying has one major flaw in it: what IF it can be improved by making a few changes? Should you just sit blindly by and do nothing because you're afraid of the work you'll need to do to modify something? No way!

Here's the thing about change. With change comes confusion, uncertainty, chaos, and not having all the answers. And not having all the answers is the thing that really rocks our boat. Because when we have all the answers, we can deal with those changes and it feels safe. Ah, but herein lies the kicker....there's no room for growth there and you succumb to mediocrity and ultimately fade into the woodwork so to speak.

Change is the very thing that adds spice to our everyday life. Picture this: if you ate one kind of cereal every morning for 40 years, don't you think you'd be a little bit tired of eating it at around day 14,610? (By the way, that number includes an extra 10 days for Leap years.) I'm pretty sure you just nodded your head yes at that one, right?

Change is the determining factor between having a thriving and bountiful life and business, or one that is merely existing and taking up space on the planet. Yes, change is hard to adapt to, and yes, it's uncomfortable when you're going through it - most of the best things in life do cause us some twinges of pain - but you need to realize that the immediate discomfort will soon pass.

So, the next time you're faced with any type of change, ask yourself these two questions:

1. What will the end result look like once I embrace this change and reach the goalpost?

2. If I do this now, what added benefits will it bring to my overall life?

We're talking 'big picture' here folks. Think bigger - you just might like it!

Get EXCITED! There Is Alot To Be Excited About - Always

I was talking a client the other day that shared with me that having read something that I sent to him that he was not excited, when he knew he should be - got me to thinking about the sadness I feel for those who are waiting for circumstances to shift before they get excited about their lot in the world.

I train people to discipline where their thoughts are focused daily - if we were to orient our thoughts - every thought we have everyday towards what we THINK, SAY, DO, BE in alignment with our ultimate game then we cannot but not win our game - sadly most people do not know what their game is. Excitement is not a by product, it is a choice. Excitement has a powerful resonance and if we live in gratitude for what a profound privilege it is to be alive, we would not squander one minute focusing on anything else but what forwards our game.

How many books do we need to read that state 'Be careful what you think for your thoughts create your reality'. If we are to believe this then we would quickly own how powerful we truly are in our resonance to only ever focus our thoughts towards the main game plan.

Most people listen to what I term static frequencies. Using the analogy of the radio, when we are travelling in our cars we would never stay on the static channel, we would always tune into the music, so what is your music? The disempowered static frequencies I speak of for human beings is 'Fear/Issues, Problems, Challenges/Confusion and the Inner Critic'. How on earth can we hear our intuitive voice through these frequencies? I have said it before and I will say it again, we were born fearless, intuitive and connected and then we learnt that life was not safe. The journey to raising ones awareness and coming home to being whole and complete requires one to reclaim their birthright - I cannot teach people to become intuitive, fearless, connected, I only need remind them to re-access what they came in with!

From a fabulous book entitled 'Ask and It Is Given', Jerry and Ester Hicks state:-

Why is it taking me so long to get what I want?

• It is not because you do not want it enough
• It is not because you are not intelligent enough
• It is not because you are not worthy enough
• It is not because fate is against you
• It is not because someone else has already won your prize

The reason you have not already gotten what you desire is because you are holding yourself in a vibrational holding pattern that does not match the vibration of your desire. That is the only reason - ever!

I truly align with this statement.

So I ask you today, why are you not excited about your life? What's stopping you generating excitement for everything that is transpiring in your life right now, the good, the bad and the indifferent? I choose to be excited for I know how powerful that resonance is to what I attract moment by moment. I have achieved a level of conscious competency with being THAT DISCIPLINED in where my thoughts are focused, for I know that I am the creator of my reality.

Circumstances shifting are not where your happiness and or excitement lies. Happiness and excitement are generated from choosing it! Like every other empowered emotion. I choose to be happy, I choose to be excited regardless of circumstance. The vigilance in being this disciplined comes from leading a committed life. I get people want to feel happy, want to feel excitement, but there is a big difference being committed to being happy, being committed to feeling excited. The difference between wanting something and being committed to something are RESULTS! Pure and simple. Most of us are waiting for the circumstances in our lives to change before we change, I am here to tell you, it is the complete reverse!

Your interpretation of what is not working in your life is only your interpretation. If your life is not exemplifying how you would like to be, it is because you are not committed (yet) to it being any different - here's the litmus test - if you did, it would be that way by now.

I welcome everything into my life as a lesson for my growth as a spiritual being. I resist nothing, I accept everything as my own creation. My mantra in life is this "if everything is perfect just the way it is and just the way it isn't who do I need to be being in this moment?'. Believe you me there are a lot of things that have happened in my past and in my current reality that do not occur as perfect but if I apply this life mantra I get to see the part I am playing in what I am attracting it.

So I will leave you with this simple formula for results:- Focus everything you DO, SAY, BE, THINK in alignment with your ultimate game. I know what my ultimate game is with crystal clear clarity - what's yours?